Tips on Caring for Aging Parents

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Helping Care for Aging Parents

Nobody wants to think about their parents getting older. After all, these are the individuals who have cherished for you for most of your life. It can be odd for a lot of people to grasp this role reversal, not just for the parents but also for the children. Despite this, you are going to have to find a way to accommodate your aging parents’ new requirements and needs. It is important to have a system in place that benefits the parents as well as the children. Here are some tips on caring for your elderly parents:

Know Your Options

Depending on the how able-bodied your parents are, you have different options available to you. If they are quite healthy and able to take care of themselves, you may simply want to move them closer to you. If they need more help in their daily lives, however, you may have to find some home care for them. You can hire someone fulltime to supervise them in their own residence. You may want to move them in with you and have someone watch them when you are not around. Be mindful of the costs involved when thinking of a solution.

Face the Facts

As mentioned, you might find it extremely difficult to come to term with the fact that your parents are getting older. Unfortunately, it is something that you are going to have to face, particularly if they are finding it difficult to look after themselves. Keep a close watch on your parents. Do they seem to be injuring themselves more often? Are they forgetting certain details or seem unable to manage daily duties on their own? By paying attention, you can actually avoid unnecessary accidents or other unfortunate issues. It is best to intervene before a problem becomes too serious rather than to deal with the consequences.

Share the Load

A common trend is for one sibling to take over most of the responsibility instead of making use of elderly care. This can have many negative effects for the responsible brother or sister. Depending on the condition of your parents, they may need fulltime supervision. This can wear someone down if it is done on a constant basis. To avoid stressing out just one person, make sure that everyone has equal responsibilities or at least hire a professional caretaker. At the very least, make sure that your other siblings watch over your parents during the weekend. To minimize the amount of financial discomfort, you should also split the costs between each of the siblings.

Identify Their Needs

The best way to help out your parents is to know exactly what they need. Make sure that you have all the details about whatever illness or condition that they may be facing. Elderly individuals tend to have many health problems. Ensure that you are creating an environment for your parents where all of their issues are being adequately handled. This is the only way to ensure that they live a happy and fulfilling life.

It is certainly not easy to look after your aging parents. Sometimes it can feel like a great burden. It is important, however, to remember all that your parents have done for you. It is now your turn to take care of them.


One comment

  • Claudia
    August 2, 2016 - 9:04 am | Permalink

    Great article! I think being prepared and having a system in place is key when moving forward with elder care. Thanks for the advice and tips. It is hard to cover everything and I have found that reading as much as I can on the subject has really helped. The book that has stuck with me throughout my research is “9 Realities Of Caring For An Elderly Parent” by Stefania Shaffer ( It is one of those stories that cuts to the core of the heart and resonates deeply. The author, arguably at the apex of her career, love-life and prominence, casts all of these things aside, for a mother that she hasn’t talked to in years. This story depicts the human condition beautifully, forging a reluctant, but ultimately stronger bond between mother and caring daughter. It makes one re-consider petty family argument and leaves a strong, positive example of how to unite, or re-unite family, despite improbable odds and conditions. Not only is it a personalized story of the author’s experience with her aging mother but it is a guide with worksheets, and so many helpful tips (e.g. keeping your parent safe in their own home, organizing their financial records) and she even has a chapter on dealing with your loved one’s death. I hope you and your readers will check it out

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