I'm excited, nervous and feeling guilty all in one

[Happy Momma]

Next weekend my husband and I are going away for the weekend.  My parents are going to watch our 2 year old daughter.  I'm soooo excited to go away with my husband- we never, ever get any alone time together.  But this is the first time I will be leaving my daughter for more than a couple of hours (and I've only done that maybe 5 of times) and I am so nervous about leaving her.  And- everytime I start looking forward to going I start feeling guilty like it's wrong to want to go away without my daughter.

[Happy Momma]

I'm starting to have doubts about going.  I don't know if I can do it!!

[Nancy]

That is a natural feeling.  We have all felt it, but your daughter will be fine and have a great time.  The grandparents will have a good time also.  Go and enjoy yourself.  You can always call to make sure everything is all right, just don't overdo the calling.  It will be good for all of you.

[Candid Carrie]

Please go.  For the grandparent's sake:

My granddaughter is eighteen months old.  We love to have her here with us but her parents NEVER go anywhere.  We get to pick her up from daycare today and I am so freaking excited I can't stand it.  She gets to sleep overnight, we get to take tons of pictures and I can't believe how excited I am to get to spend this time with her. 

Please go.  For your daughter's sake:

She needs to practice letting go.  There will be an event coming up some day when you aren't expecting and she won't be able to go along and she needs to be able to see that mom and dad can go away and then they come back.  This is really healthy for her to practice now.  The only way she can learn you will always be there for her is if you leave and come back. 

Please go.  For your own sake:
You have a marraige to keep intact and these days it is getting harder and harder with stressful situations flying out of no where.  Have fun, behave and relax.  I'll give you my phone number if you want me to call ME on your little trip and I'll tell you to know that $h*t off ! ! !

Also, be prepared.  Your daughter may pitch a fit when you leave.  Then she will behave fabulous when you aren't looking.  Then as soon as you come back she will act like a little turd and go all immature on you.  The grandparents will say, "she was perfectly fine" and you must believe them.  Because is the truth. 

No go.

[Happy Momma]

Thank you for your advice ladies!  I am going to go.  I'm going to try not to call every 5 minutes.  I'll have fun and she'll have fun and my parents will have fun.  Yes we will.

[Candid Carrie]

Yippee Skippee!  Have fun fun fun!

[Nancy]

  Have fun and let us know how it went for you...

[Grandma Shelley]

I'm glad you decided to go. I remember having a young family. My two oldest were one and three when I left them the first time for a girls trip. I shed a few tears the first hour or so then I started to have a great time getting to be just me! Then the guilt set in a bit because I hardly thought of them for the next five days. They were home with my husband and I knew they were being well taken care of. I'm glad I learned the lesson early in my parenting years that it is just fine to leave the kids every once in a while. I know it's great for moms, marriages, and the kids.

I now keep my grandkids quite often so that my own children and grandchildren can reap the same rewards. It's not a bad thing for me either.

You might enjoy reading a couple of my blog posts one titled "around the world at home" and "survivor grandma". It makes it very clear how much fun grandmas can have at home with the kids too.

Grandma Shelley
www.grandmasmoderndaytrunkoftreasures.blogspot.com

[Happy Momma]

I had a wonderful time!  The first night I worried a lot and didn't sleep very well.  But once I called on Saturday morning and found out my daughter was just fine I really enjoyed the rest of our stay.  I did feel guilty a few times on Saturday when I realized I hadn't been thinking about her- so I'm glad to know that is a normal feeling too!

Even though I had a great time, now that we are home I feel really depressed.  I'm not sure what my problem is.  It's like I looked forward to our trip over the last couple of months and now that it's over I feel so down and sad.

[Grandma Shelley]

Good for you. I know the let down feeling when something is over that had been so anticipated and enjoyed. I am an event planner. I love every detail from the creative planning, the organizing, implementing,  attending, and seeing the guests enjoying the event. I feel that way (let down) following an event too. There is kind of an emptiness you feel. It's just time to plan your next outing so you have something to look forward to again.

Grandma Shelley
www.grandmasmoderndaytrunkoftreasures.blogspot.com

[Happy Momma]

Well then I guess I'll get planning!

[FickleMinded]

wow! i just jumped to this forum direct from your blog bec I saw the photo you posted, good to know that you had a fabulous day together.

[Candid Carrie]

Hey ... those are great smiles!  I am so glad you went!