I am so pissed off right now and want nothing more then to blog this, but I can't. Why? because the
jerks asses losers people I want to blog about are our so called friends and they read my blog. I guess I could take the low road here and blog anyway and make them feel like the lowlifes they are but....I won't. We all know if it's in writting there's no taking it back, it becomes gosspel. So I'll blog it here because I need to vent and maybe you'll offer me some
sympathy words of wisdom.
*the background*We had a group of friends we saw weekly about 5 years back (we are in our mid to late thirties now). We've since gone our separate ways, one couple moved, one husband killed himself, on wife has bi-polar disorder and has had a rough few years and one couple has a "complicated" relationship. There are other friends in this group and we all do still see one another from time to time, but not usually as a group. The "complicated" couple includes a husband
with wondering
hands? eyes, we have caught him in a few not so proper situations and my husband now thinks he is the scum of the earth (he will be refered to as S from here on out). They have had words more then once
, about more things then just his wondering eyes. His wife seems to tollerate her husbands behavior and I guess that's okay...for them...and for the rest of our so called friends. My husband has now resigned himself to the fact that he will have to see this couple occasionally has decided to be civil
because well that's what you should do right?? We see the other couples in the group fairly regularly, one of the wives is someone I would consider to be one of my closest friends. Her husband (who we will call K) is probably the husband in the group my husband sees the most. The third offender in this story is a man we will call J, they are a couple who weren't really in the nucleous of our friend circle, they were more in the outer circle, a friend of S's from highschool. J, S & K play golf together and get together "just the guys" occasionally. My husband is typically left out because S has decided everything is my husbands fault and he wants nothing to with him. However my husband does get invited occasionally to events that include the "whole" group of guys or couples or if one of the other guys is involved in the planning. My husband typically invites S to events he is planning because, well,
life is too short and even though his morals and values conflict with S's it just polite and decent.
Cut to todaySo this morning my husband decided to go golfing. He had called K yesterday and asked if he'd like to golf and K said he was already golfing. So my hubby decided to go alone, no big deal. He goes early, usually gets partnered up with a 2some or 3some and has a nice morning. SO...this morning, he gets paired with a threesome of fellows he obviously does not know and he heads out to the first tee. Who do you think is sitting there? That's right, K,J&S. So they all say hello and chit chat and have a few laughs...then K,J&S proceed to tee off...
as a three some.
So now, I can see if it was just S golfing with someone, or just S and J but that K was involved and they had a space for 1, really stings. To me, what they did was beyond rude, it was insulting. Is it not common courtisy (especially on a golf course) to invite the person you know or in most cases even someone you hardly know to play with you?
Needless to say my husband is very hurt. They apparently knew he was alone, and knew he would be teeing off behind them for the entire 18 holes and still did not have the manners to invite him to play with them. Here's the kicker, K and his wife invited us for dinner tomorrow. She and I are supposed to golf and the guys are supposed to take the kids out and do something fun...then we are supposed to go to thier place for dinner. I don't know if we will be going.
Would you go? Would you say something? Should K appologize
? Are we blowing this whole thing out of proportion? How would you feel, and how would you deal with your husbands very bruised ego?
I'm stunned and hurt for my husband....and I don't know what else to say.
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