STAY-AT-MOMS... WE ARE BUSY

[Danielle]

  IM TIRED OF PEOPLE ASKING ME WHAT I DO FOR A LIVING...WHEN I SAY I STAY AT HOME WITH MY CHILDREN I OFTEN HERE, WE'LL MUST BE NICE TO GET TO WATCH TV ALL DAY PLEASE!!! I NEVER WATCH TV, I AM CONSTANTLY "DOING" SOMETHING THEY MAKE ME FEEL SOO LOW AS A PERSON LIKE I AM UNEDUCATED!! WHICH I AM NOT ANY COMMENTS

[Mom2ConnorRyan]

I know what you mean.  I am stay at home mom but currently finishing a degree.  Anyways, my husband's aunt ask me a while back what do I do all day? I told her flat out it was none of her business!  She got the hint.  I am plenty busy with laundry, cleaning, and taking care of my son.  Oh yea and college!

[Danielle]

  candice, why do many women feel the need to knock us?? are they jealous, or do they know that it is harder to stay home than work and know that we are the stronger ones??? because i have worked and it is harder to stay home i know, but i chose to stay home because i want that enviroment set for my children's well being its my choice...

[Danielle]

they can see that i am busy!! lol my blog www.afantasticfamilyoffour.blogspot.com  enjoy!!!! comments welcomed

[berriesweetest]

i know this is a rant, and i work from home part time, so i know how hard it is to get people to understand that it is hard work! but that doesn't make it easier for working moms, either.
one isn't better than the other...it is just what works best for each family.
that being said, it is totally rude and ignorant for anyone to assume that stay at home moms just eat bon bons and watch Jerry Springer all day.

[Danielle]

  IT IS IGNORANT WE ARE JUST AS BUSY, AND IT SEEMS THAT MORE PRESSURE IS PUT ON US SIMPLY BECAUSE WE ARE HOME. PEOPLE THINK THAT WE SHOULD HAVE EVERYTHING PERFECT AND COMPLETED WELL, BECAUSE WE ARE HOME. THEY THINK THAT WE SHOULD NEVER HAVE DIRTY DISHES IN THE SINK, THAT CLOTHES SHOULD ALWAYS BE WASHED AND NOT LYING ON THE FLOOR, THAT BATHROOM MIRRORS SHOULD HAVE NO STREAKS, AND FOR SURE, THAT OUR CHILDREN SHOULD ALWAYS BE DRESSED, FACES CLEAN AND SHOULD ALWAYS BE PROPER, GIVE ME A BREAK..LIFE IS UNPREDIABLE AND CERTAINLY NOT PERFECT, I'M NOT PERFECT...U FEEL ME?? LOL

[Mom2ConnorRyan]

I do not know because honestly depending on what kind of day I am having I sometimes do not have time to brush my teeth.  Sad and pathetic I know.  My husband's aunt is weird and I really, really do not like her.  The funny part is her daughter is a stay at home mom.  She talks all the time how busy she is.  On and on about it.  Double standard anyone? Next week is going to be crazy b/c I am teaching VBS at our church and my husband is out of town 4 out of 5 days. 

[Audrey]

I just read a thread earlier today from moms who work full time and have their kids in daycare. They were complaining that folks say to them "how can you let a stranger raise your child?"

Each of us has to find what works for us, for our spouses and for our children. If you believe you have found the right answer...then it doesn't matter what anyone else says

[monkeysmomma99]

I am not a SAHM, but I wish I were! I work full time outside of the home (three 12-hr night shifts a week) as a registered nurse. If I don't work, we don't eat. I am jealous of SAHM's. I would never bash you because I know that you work very hard. There is no such thing as a non-working mom, anyway.

If I could, I would quit my job in a heart beat, and stay home full time. Kudos to you who can!

    

[zimkandace]

I just became a SAHM, not by choice but we've figured it out a way for me to work part time from home.  Anyway, I never longed to stay home because I knew the house wouldn't stay clean, the laundry I could ignore while working is now staring at me and sometimes it yells at me, suddenly I would become a chef, a housecleaner and disiplinarian...all things I feel I suck at.  So, choosing to stay home was something I never thought I would do because it was harder to feel rewarded for a thankless job.  Now, I know the reward is staying with them and raising them and getting time with your children which can never be regained.

So, i've always known it was more difficult to stay home than work for me.  I'm one of those people who enjoys a pat on the back once in a while and a paycheck.  But, the paycheck for staying home seems to be the time and for that I am thankful.

And seriously the most judgemental people I've ever met are all mothers.  I think it's a survival thing and that each one of us, no matter the situation, feels like we are doing the very best we can and some times people feel like they have to put down others to feel good about themselves and that is sad.

Anyway, staying at home is hard but has wonderful rewards:)

[berriesweetest]

candace-you got it right...moms are our friends....and our enemies. it's like chocolate-so good but it goes right to our butts, so it's bad for us too. make sense?
not really.
oh well.
my point is that i agree-we need to try to stop judging each other. and as for being a SAHM-we all deserve a medal.

[Happy Momma]

I have noticed that many times people seem to think that SAHM's are uneducated, not very smart, etc.  Like we're staying home to raise our kids because we don't know how to do anything else.  Of course being home all day with a screaming toddler can turn your brain to mush- so when I say things that make no sense I guess I can understand where they are coming from.  I have almost completed my master's degree- so I know I'm not stupid.  But the comments that people make can be very hurtful.

Before I was a stay at home mom I had no idea how difficult it would be.  I seriously thought I'd get to watch my favorite TV shows, do some scrapbooking and make wonderful projects with my daughter.  Talk about a major wake up call!  I'm happy when I have had a shower and time to brush my teeth.  My point is- that if these comments or questions ("What do you do ALL DAY LONG?") are coming from someone who has never been a SAHM it's because they really don't know how hard it is.  Just like I didn't know until I did it.

[Mom2ConnorRyan]

What is up thinking we are uneducated? I am currently finishing a bachelor's degree in education.  I also plan to get my master's right after.  As moms we really should not judge each other.  B/c we do what we think is right for our family and the situation.  You never know what you would do unless you are in the situation.  What I think is right for you might not be right.  I love being a SAHM and enjoy it.  But there are some days I cannot wait to go to class and have a little "ME" time.  We all need that! I love my son very much but I make sure I have time for me and my husband.  We are no good to him if we are not happy as individuals and as a couple. 

[Happy Momma]

I love being a SAHM and enjoy it.  But there are some days I cannot wait to go to class and have a little "ME" time.  We all need that! I love my son very much but I make sure I have time for me and my husband.  We are no good to him if we are not happy as individuals and as a couple. 

This is sooooo true.  If I don't get a little "me" time I turn into a grouchy mom.  So why is it that I feel so guilty for wanting some "me" time?

[Audrey]

Me time is important for so many reasons. It refreshes us. It helps maintain our personal identity. It keeps us feeling good about ourselves.

I find time almost every single day for me. I work out at the gym almost daily. I also take time in the evening to either write, read, play hearts or something else that helps me wind down.