need a break!!

[Danielle]

  my husband and i are at each others throats right now. my 10 year old son is playing all-star baseball , and the ball thing has been going on since april, we spend just about every night at the ballpark..i have a daughter who needs time with her dad... am i being unfavor..i just need some family time together but not at the ballpark help!!

[Audrey]

What does your husband say? Can you do dinner before, ice cream after?

[Danielle]

we have tried that.. am i being unfavor to him, don't get me wrong..i love baseball i have a blog for my son'a baseball team check it out if u want www.eodyb10yearoldall-stars2008.blogspot.com   i know my husband needs his own freinds..i just wish he was excited to talk to me like he his to his baseball buddies.. i love him soo much and want him happy

[yayamommy]

You know I am struggling with something similar.    My hubby doesn't do family time like I do, so he can only handle it in small chunks where I spend my life doing kid stuff.  On the other hand he can watch and talk baseball 24/7 with his friends while I can only handle it in small chunks. 

I had to get a grip on the fact that family time wasn't going to be 5 nights a week, or last for 6 hours at a time, AND I had to accept that while my hubby loves our daughter to death, he does not love watching HSM and playing barbies. 

It's such a huge give and take, and I think this is one of the things that makes marriage SO HARD!    Here's what I did: stayed true to me by planning things that I love to do with Sophie, always inviting my husband of course but not getting mad if he said no, then planned some short fun family time at least once or twice a week. 
So far it works, but now with the 4th here---yebleech -- I can't wait for this holiday to end!

Good luck Danielle, and thanks so much for posting about it.  It's nice to know that we have a place to talk and vent and get some ideas and support when we need it.  I'm rooting  for you right now!

[Danielle]

  thanks for the advice!!! you sound like you are really happy with who u r and seem so confident in your parneting skills, u go girl!! i know that i really don't know you, but i feel a special connection with you, maybe its becasue u are a lot like me, compromise, isn't that what lifes all about?? and marriage!! lol

[Tara]

Sometimes I think I'm going to lose my mind without a break, then I get a "day off" and I'm all better again!

[Danielle]

sweetie, we always need a break, u need time alone too, and when you get that break, aren't you a better mother to your children?? it gives us time to renew or mind and spririt, when we have done that, we can be better mothers>> u deserve it!!! thanks for the input

[nursepine]

I did not have baseball because I had girls but my husband was very active in the girls softball games and now that they are all grown up he still goes to the older girls 18 and over softball games. He is still very active in the local softball league making sure that other young girls have a good local league to play in and that there are games for them.
We spent many a night up at the fields and we would spend them as a family 3 of the daughters would be playing and the other 2 girls would be playing and running around the fields. When all 5 girls where playing we would be up at the field every night. Sometimes I would pack a cooler and we would get there a little early and picnic sometimes we would have ice cream after. What ever we did it worked, now everyone does there own thing and once in a while we go to see my olders girls play.
It all works out in the long run. Family time can be anything it does not have to be sitting at a table and playing games it can be as simple as having a picnic just before a game.
 

[Danielle]

  i am now starting to realize that, i just got home from a travel baseball weekend, and we did have some family time together at the ballpark, we did just that.. we packed a lunch and ate it there, so it can and did work out thanks!

[Audrey]

Glad to hear you were able to make it all work out.

[yayamommy]

Hi Danielle!  I'm so glad it worked out for you!!!  Hooray for picnics!    I'm sorry it took my so long to come back and see you. 
Things are crazy,  but what else is new?  At least I survived the weekend--thank God for that. I'll talk more about that later. 
In the meantime, thank you so much for the compliments. You are sweet and special and I'm so glad you are here.  Thanks Danielle!

[Danielle]

  yayamommy, you are truly a friend in need!!   it soo good to know others feel the same way i do!!! speaking of breaks.... i need one now!!! my kids have been fighting all day long, my dog is barking like crazy!! help!!!! LOL

[yayamommy]

ew, I've had days like that.  Those are usually the days I find the ice cream or skittles that I hide!   
I hope things chill out for you soon.  Btw, it is finally in the 90's up here--with a whole lot of humidity-hooray for summer!  How are things down in the bayou?

[Danielle]

  GIRL, ITS 100 DEGREES HERE!! I'M SO FREAKIN HOT!! SORRY FOR THE LANGUAGE!!! I JUST GOT THOURGH COOKING POPCORN FOR THE KIDS, THEY ARE WATCHING TV, I HOPE THEY GO TO BED SOON!! LOL IT HAS BEEN ONE OF THOSE DAYS. I HAVE TRIED TO MAKE IT A REAL FUN DAY TODAY, WE MADE HOMEMADE LEMONADE, PLAYED BASEBALL, COOKED AND EVERYTHING YOU COULD IMAGINE!! I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING THEY WANTED TO DO TODAY, THEY NEED TO CHILL NOW AND LET ME DO MY THING!!

[yayamommy]

I like popcorn! 

It seems like when I finally just stop and play with Sophie it's never enough by the end of the day.  She is insatiable with endless energy.  I'm at least grateful for the creators of High School Musical.   It's a nice change from the little cartoons she likes. 
Oh, and Candyland?  Not so much fun the second time around.  Or the 30th.  Or the 70th.  Stop the Insanity!!!

Stay cool.  This wonderful heat can't last forever.  Before I know it I'll be knee deep in snow again. yeech