NO ONE WILL TALK ABOUT MY CHILDREN AND GET AWAY WITH IT...

[Danielle]

YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ME ...MY DOWNFALLS AND MY ATTITUDE, AND I WILL NOT SAY A WORD, BUT IF YOU SAY SOMETHING NEGATIVE ABOUT MY CHILDREN, I WILL CONFRONT YOU.. IS THAT WRONG??? TELL ME... MY BLOG   www.afantasticfamilyoffour.blogspot.com 

[yayamommy]

nothing wrong with a mama bear showing her teeth!   

[grocerymama]

nothing wrong with a mama bear showing her teeth!   

tru dat!

[Danielle]

THANK YOU!! THEY ARE NY BABIES AND I WILL DO WHATEVER I CAN TO PROTECT THEM, MAMMA TAKING CARE OF HER CUBS!! LOL

[Audrey]

Who spoke about your children and what did they say?

[yayamommy]

ew, Audrey you just asked the magic question....I was dying to ask, but wasn't sure if mama bear had put her teeth away yet?  Yep I'm a big curious chicken...

bawk, ba ba bawk--that's me clucking for you all

[Audrey]

It's tough to offer an opinion without knowing the details

[Danielle]

my son is a awsome baseball player he hit the most homeruns in this season in the 9-10 year old league.. he plays 1st base and he made an error and one of the players said something to him about it. it made my son feel really bad, and i told the child that we do not talk down to our teammates, there is no "i" in team. you are supposed to give encougement becasue when you knock your teammates, it only degrades thier self-esteem, i just love my children and i don't like seeing them hurt

[Audrey]

Was the coach aware of this?

I see two sides....one side is let's kill anyone who harms our children

The other side is we need to let them learn to defend themselves and stick up for themselves. Otherwise as adults they won't have the skills to help themselves when situations like this happen.

[Danielle]

 YES, YOU ARE TOTALLY RIGHT, THEY NEED TO DEFEND THEMSELVES, MY DAUGHTER DOES, AND I DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT HER, U THINK ITS BECAUSE SHE IS A GIRL LOL, WOMEN ALWAYS STICK UP FOR THIER FAMILIES, BUT MY LITTLE BOY IS SCARED TO HURT SOMEONES FEELINGS, HE JUST WANTS EVERYONE HAPPY, EVEN AT THE EXPENSE OF HIS HAPPINESS, I JUST DO NOT WANT ANYONE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HIS KINDNESS

[grannycoolbeans]

  Hello everyone...I'm new here, but I can not resist havin' my say in this discussion....

 

Firstly it depends on who is talkin' and what they're sayin'.

How old is this kid who was critical of your son's error? Is he older or younger? Is his parent the coach? I ask the last question because there is sometimes, in the child's mind rightly or wrongly, a sense of entitlement when the parent is the coach to his/her own child who is a member of the team.

There are times when parents must simply observe how the children interact before stepping in and getting involved.

Every child should be encouraged to defend himself when appropriate. Just because someone makes an unflattering comment about you does not make it true. 

We do not necessarily always have to respond when someone is unkind. We can choose to ignore them.
 

[emsplace]

I am late on this too, and I am not sure what I would have done.
But I'd imagine all of them tell each other when they make mistakes by virtue of the fact that they want their team to do better. On a team, mistakes are still mistakes or errors or whatever... and when you want to get better, you work on getting better, not always by being told you are perfect. Ya know? Plus they are boys. And boys are mouthy (well, most of them I've seen) - they grow up to be MEN afterall. hahaha
That being said... I don't think children being MEAN is ok. But... at some point we do have to let our children defend themselves.

An example: my son is in Kindergarten and he is almost five. My neighbor's son they held back and he is almost 6. So the little boy told my son he wasn't old enough for Kindergarten. But he is (the rule is 5 before December 31st and in a private Kindergarten). Anyway... I told my son to work it out with the child. He knows he is old enough. And he did. 
Yes, there are times I tell the kids to knock it off, but it is my son I'm talking to TOO.

it is never the funnest place to be as a parent. Hugs

[Nancy]

Don't you let anyone talk about your babies!

Mine are adults and I still think of them as off limits to criticism by anyone at anytime and I don't hesitate to tell people so!

Nancy