In Laws

[Happy Momma]

Does anyone else have problems with their in-laws?  Mine are about to drive me insane.

We live three hours away from both sets of grandparents.  When we go to visit we always stay with my parents- much more toddler friendly house and room for us to have a place to sleep.  We always make plans to visit with my in-laws while we are there too.  But about half of the time my MIL comes up with some excuse at the last minute why we can't come over.  And they have never been to our home (we moved away almost 5 years ago.) My 19 month (Hailey) old hasn't seen my in-laws much at all and they are strangers to her.  It hurts me that they don't seem to want to be a part of her life.  When I try to talk to my MIL about it she always says "Well, things come up."  Then she turns around and complains when she sees me post pics on my blog of Hailey doing things with my parents and says how hurt she is that we spend more time with them.  Well, HELLO??

Anyways, that's my vent for the day!

[Linda]

my ex-inlaws were the same way...they never called the kids on bdays or holidays...wasn't until the divorce and my oldest was 18 that she got her first birthday call from her grandmother...breaks your heart.  I didn't get it...ex just said, well that's the way they are...excuse me?  When grandfather died in '03 my son actually asked, what was his name again?...don't get me started...some people!  I tell my kids when you meet someone you think you love, study his/her parents because they come with the package and you may think it doesn't matter, but it does!  I wanted my ex to talk to them so much...they didn't seem to want a relationship with me and that was fine, but grandparents are so great for kids...I know where you are coming from!!!

[Aimee]

my in laws are fine-my husbands mom and stepdad we all get along fine with as well as all his siblings (6 of them), also all of his aunts and uncles and cousins-pretty close family (his mom is one of 12)

but my husbands Dad is a real charachter...he will come into town (he lives about 6 hrs away in Vegas), and only want to see one of the grandkids-the same one-DH's oldest daughter Kait.  Its way hard, cause the other kids have to hear kait talk about it, and they are like why didn't he want to come see me??  He takes her shopping, to the zoo, just a bunch of different things and the other two kids get nothing.  oh and he won't even call us to tell us he's here-DH's ex wife tells us, cause he'll come on a weekend that we dont have Kait and just go thru the ex.  Its so disrespectful.  ugh bugs me!

[Tara]

I don't really get along with my husband's parents, well we kind of just ignore each other for the most part but pretend we like each other. The rest of his family- brother, cousins, aunts and uncles, etc are great! His parents are just the weirdos of the family. It really is too bad.

[yayamommy]

I have always thought of my in-laws as a pain.  My hubby came from a big family and I came from a very small one.  Having said that my daughter is treated royally with my folks and like any other grandkid on my husbands' side.
It's only recently that I've gotten the knowledge of what it's like in some of their shoes--and have been able to just let them be.  I'm not friends with any of my in-laws (brothers or sisters) and might never be, but at least I don't have to not like them because of their lifestyle choices.  They are just trying to figure life out just like me.
Anyway, complaining about them is one of my guilty pleasures.  I don't mean to be hurtful, just sometimes love the big B*@ch session, you know?

[Happy Momma]

It's nice to know I'm not the only one who has this problem!

[berriesweetest]

I am just stopping by to say I HEAR YA! i can't get into this one right now because it is 12:38 a.m. and I have an article to finish, but I'll be back!

[lorrij7]

My ex father in law was great but mother in law   We get along great now after getting divorced!

[abunslife]

My in-laws are awesome....I am so thankful for them especially because my dad passed away before I got married and I am estranged from my mother. (Long story, but she was emotionally abusive to me my whole life and it started to carry over to my children, which I wouldn't allow.)  If it wasn't for their love and understanding, my children wouldn't know what having a normal grandma and grandpa was like.

[Aimee]

My husband's father called last night...was a jerk. ugh he's such a bum.

He said he was coming into town this weekend, and wanted to see ONE of the kids.  He only mentioned one of them!!!  My husband was like, you know I have 3 kids right, and his dad said no, you have two...started a whole big feud. I wish he'd grow up!!! He then called my husband's ex wife, and made plans with her.  He hasn't even put forth effort to get to know ME.

I'm so glad my husband's mom and step-dad are AWESOME!

[msfizzles]

I would be so bummed if I had bad in-laws.  My MIL and FIL moved to TN, my FIL unexpectedly passed away =( and she has since remarried to a really super guy.  They are due to arrive any day now as they are coming up for a graduation and visit.  I love them!

[Happy Momma]

He then called my husband's ex wife, and made plans with her.  He hasn't even put forth effort to get to know ME.

This sounds like my MIL.  She has made it very clear that she prefers my hubby's ex over me.  And my MIL and my hubby's ex are very close.

[Aimee]

He then called my husband's ex wife, and made plans with her.  He hasn't even put forth effort to get to know ME.

This sounds like my MIL.  She has made it very clear that she prefers my hubby's ex over me.  And my MIL and my hubby's ex are very close.

ughhh it makes me .  what type of parents can do that to THEIR own kids?!?! ughhh

[yayamommy]

Ouch Happy Momma!  THat sounds rough.  Too bad for them though--I totally prefer YOU! YAYA!

[Happy Momma]

Awww, thanks yayamommy!  You're so sweet.