Does anyone elses husband do this?

[k.rodriguez]

I freaking sware! I'm out in the living room (on my laptop ) but, I'm also nursing at the same time.  My 3 year old son is just being a bad a** and my 10 year old daughter is trying to keep up with him.  My husband is out back in the bedroom and has the nerve to get freakin' irritated because I asked him to come out here and help with HIS son!
My hubby is a very nice laid back person but, I am extremely underappreciated by him.  I feel like going off on him! I mean we live in a maintenance free neighborhood so, the most he has to do it take out the dang on trash.  Now granted he does work in a dental office with screaming brats all day.  But, at 5 he gets to leave.  I'm a mother with screaming brats 24/7  My boys won't even sleep without me. I haven't had a good nights sleep in over 3 fricken years!   I never have ONE minute to myself.  Hell, at least he gets some on the drive to work.  I haven't been alone in a car without kids in years!  And I don't leave our boys with him, because he has like NO patience. And his mother tells me he was a little horror when he was little!  Go freakin figure!
He doesn't say it, but I know he thinks because he leaves and goes to work that he's doing sooooooooooo much more than me...BS!!  Who in the sam he** is up with these little brats when it's one in the morning and they are running around like we're out at the dang park.  And who can't take a day off and stay in the bed all day when they are ? ME, ME, ME! Urrrrrrrrr
Okay, thanks ladies, I'm good now

[Jane @ Kidzarama]

Hope you're feeling a bit better now, Kenyatta.

Sounds incredibly frustrating.

Wonderhubby went through a bad stage last year, but he's behaving himself again now, so maybe it will improve with time?

[Jo Ann]

sorry to know that. i hope ur feeling better now. have u tried talking to him about how he can help you? i do hope things will be better soon.

[jamajofe]

sorry to hear you are having a rough time, remember they will all grow up one day, and you will miss it. My kids are now 14,16,17 and 20, things are easier now. You will get there.

[k.rodriguez]

Thank you ladies.  I feel soooooooo much better now.  I just thought I would come here so I don't end up blogging about it!   It's all good.  He's a sweetie for the most part.  That just really irritated me.  And yeah I know they grow up fast, I have four 13,10,20 months and 3 years.  The two youngest, boys...see why I'm on edge now?

[Jo Ann]

oh ok... so that's why! my youngest is a boy and I can really understand how it feels...

[give-and-receive]

This is a cute post...I can empathize with you from days gone by. I love my kids very much and don't even want to think about what life would be like without them...BUT...we as Mom's are under appreciated when it comes to being home all day, having boob's for nursing, cooking, cleaning, teaching all day right from wrong, loving, nurturing...maybe not getting 10 minutes to take a shower..let alone throw on a dab of make-up...or how about just time to do nothing?

Throw a man into all that and where is the "you" in your life?!

It does get better with time, and I know I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. It's just nice once in a while to have someone validate your feelings.

Being a mom is the hardest job on earth...In my opinion.

Shaz

[grocerymama]

Being a mom is the hardest job on earth...In my opinion.

I agree and it never ends. I've been in that situation as well. Nursing the baby, stirring a pot so supper won't burn and yelling at the other two to quit fighting. Then my husband comes home, lays on the couch and relaxes. I keep going until I drop at 10 that night and I still haven't got a shower.

I love my hubby lots, but I wish I had some more help as well. For some reason, since I work at home I'm expected to do everything.

I have started asking for specific help. Instead of just screaming "I need help!" I say "Can you help take that basket of laundry up stairs that you have been walking past for 5 days." or "Can you stir this dish that's about to boil over and start a grease fire, "

Sometimes he's not sure how you need help.

[Happy Momma]

My hubby needs constant reminders.  We will talk about it and he does great for a few days.  Then he's right back to his old ways.  I think even though times have changed that a lot of men still think the moms are supposed to take care of all of that kind of stuff. 

And honestly before I was a stay at home mom I had NO IDEA how hard of a job it was.  I used to imagine myself doing some scrapbooking, chatting on the phone, writing some letters, etc all while my kids played happily.  I couldn't have been more wrong.  Now I know it's a good day if I have enough time to take a shower.  And scrapbooking and talking on the phone?  HA!

And a lot of times when my hubby says "What did you do all day?"  I have no idea.  I know I was going and going all day long but I couldn't tell you what I was doing.

To a lot of dads it probably seems like the SAHM's get to sit around and do whatever we want all day.  I honestly had that same wrong belief before I was a SAHM.  So, I try to keep that in mind when my hubby makes little comments or doesn't help out like I want him to.

[Jane @ Kidzarama]

Since I've been , my hubby has really stepped in and taken over.

He started getting the kids up, dressed & breakfasted in the morning, and some nights he cooks dinner for us too.
It wasn't always like this, and I'm not too sure sometimes whether I really *want* to get better.

He loves it that I started referring to him as WonderHubby on my blog, and now the kids call him that too. 

I've found that most men are just like kids where praise is concerned. They want constant reassurance that they're good husbands, fathers, lovers...
So calling him WonderHubby is like a gold star reward for him... 

[k.rodriguez]

Oh thank God you ladies know how I feel!  Sometimes I wonder if I just need a higher dosage of Prozac but I'm glad to know I'm not completely insane.  My husband always helps when I ask but, I just ALWAYS have to ask and, sometimes I want him to think of me enough or appreciate me enough to think on his own to help me.  Just like I do, when I know he's headed home and I make sure the house is clean before he gets there so, he comes home to a relaxed atmosphere.  But I guess I should just be glad that he does what I ask of him, even if he has the gall to get irritated sometimes.

[jamajofe]

Men will be men, they need to be told what they need to do, they can't read minds, I don't know why, because we don't have a problem reading minds. I am sure he appreciates everything you do, they are just not always up to speed on things that need to be done, without you telling them.

[Happy Momma]

I don't think they realize all we do either.  I think they are a lot like kids.  Just kind of assume everything will be done and they don't worry about it getting done- mostly because they know we will take care of it.  Or, it doesn't bother them.  My hubby would let dishes pile up for a week... I can't go to bed knowing I'll have to look at a sink full of dirty dishes in the sink when I get up in the morning.  If I ask him to help he usually does... but I have to ask first.

[jamajofe]

Every Saturday and Sunday morning my husband gets up early, takes my son to work and lets me sleep in, and when I get up the kitchen is alway spotless. That is the one thing he does without me asking.

[Happy Momma]

Every Saturday and Sunday morning my husband gets up early, takes my son to work and lets me sleep in, and when I get up the kitchen is alway spotless. That is the one thing he does without me asking.

Sounds like he is a well trained man.  Either by his mom or by you.