Advice Please

[Happy Momma]

Please tell me if you think I am too paranoid.  Or am I a normal mom?

http://www.livinwithme.com/2008/11/it-doesnt-have-to-make-sense/

[FickleMinded]

i read your blog and i leave a comment, but will you be mad at me if i tell you at some point while reading it,i was laughing? but I'm not laughing at you but the way we, mother, think sometimes.

[Happy Momma]

No- I'm not mad at all that you were laughing!!  It is crazy how our minds work.  But seriously- I had no idea that all moms think this way.  My hubby makes me feel like I'm some over-reacting crazy person for thinking like I do.

[Danielle]

Melanie, don't worry you are not crazy, I left you a comment as well, we love our children and we just want what is best for them, and right now, I am on the edge , for Caiden's asthma is acting up, I feel that my night will be long, but I just can't sleep knowing he is having problems breathing! He usually sleeps with me when this happens because I need him beside me to make sure he is breathing. MOtherhood, is the hardest job out there, and I take my role as a mother serious, just like you, you are normal!! I swear! Love ya!

[mylifeisrad]

LOL!  It's funny because I think we all do this as mothers.  I do it too.  I don't think I know a "normal" mom who doesn't worry.  Someone close to me got so bad about worrying that she wouldn't leave her house.  She had to go to the doctor at that point.  I think that it is very normal to worry.  We never ever want something to happen to our children.  If it interferes with our daily activities then I think maybe we should talk to someone about it.  Thats my opinion though.
I don't think anything is wrong with you at all.  It sounds like you are a great mother who loves her child!

[Audrey]

We are all moms. It's our job to worry

[Happy Momma]

LOL!  It's funny because I think we all do this as mothers.  I do it too.  I don't think I know a "normal" mom who doesn't worry.  Someone close to me got so bad about worrying that she wouldn't leave her house.  She had to go to the doctor at that point.  I think that it is very normal to worry.  We never ever want something to happen to our children.  If it interferes with our daily activities then I think maybe we should talk to someone about it.  Thats my opinion though.
I don't think anything is wrong with you at all.  It sounds like you are a great mother who loves her child!

I do wonder sometimes if I have taken it too far.  I do think it interferes with my daily life.  The worry consumes me.  And I did not used to feel this way.  In the past I would worry here and there but, for the last couple of months it has been different.  I feel like if I do not keep myself constantly busy and distracted that I start to feel worried and anxious.  I have trouble sleeping and I lay awake at night worrying sometimes too.  I have lost weight because sometimes I feel so anxious that I make myself to my stomach and I can't eat.  And I know my daughter is healthy... from time to time when she is and her asthma acts up I know it's normal to worry.  But, right now she is completley healthy and yet I find myself worrying constantly about all of the what ifs.  I would be very interested in talking to your friend who worried so much she wouldn't leave her house if she would be willing to talk to me.

[mylifeisrad]

I sent you a personal mail but Im not sure if I did it right.  Let me know if you got it and good luck!  Hang in there 

[Mom2ConnorRyan]

We as a mom we do it.  I will tell you a funny story that even my own parents or in laws do not know.  When my son I think was 3 months old I was still on maternity leave and a course paranoid about everything regarding him(slightly still am) but anyways he had been a lot that day.  I kept thinking something could be seriously wrong and his is the result.  So...I convinced my husband(he was paranoid as well, so not a good combination to be parents) to go to the hospital.  Off we go waiting in the ER for hours.  The dr thinks we are crazy (we could tell by the way he was acting) but decides to get an x-ray.  Turns out he had gas! We felt really stupid but I also felt better safe than sorry!

[Audrey]

I think we've all done paranoid things as moms. We are moms. These are our kids.

[Nancy]

Mom's are suppose to worry...it is in the Mom's Handbook!  That is why we are Mom's, it never stops.

[Candid Carrie]

Mrs. Happy ... Phone a friend!  Have y0u got a best bud you can chat with?  A great girlfriend is sometimes better than any therapy out there? 

email me privately and I'll explain the fees I charge to be someone's best friend.  Alright, that was a joke but I will gladly help get you through this!  You know where to find me. 

That's right, I am located next to the holiday M&Ms.  But really, use me. 

[Happy Momma]

You know sometimes I do wonder if that is part of my problem- I don't have a friend to chat with.  I can really honestly say that I don't have any friends.  All of my friends I had before I was a mom just kind of disappeared. 

I think if I had other moms to talk to- people to tell me that kids make silly comments like "my head hurts" and then go on their merry way and it doesn't mean they have a brain tumor- that I would feel better. 

And I have joined different mommy groups in my area.  But every time we go to an event my daughter ends up .  And she has problems with asthma when she gets and she has a hard time breathing.  And it is scary! So I hate going out which makes it hard to make friends!

I love those holiday M&M's- or any M&M's really- so let's meet there for a chat!

[michellesamom]

You know sometimes I do wonder if that is part of my problem- I don't have a friend to chat with.  I can really honestly say that I don't have any friends.  All of my friends I had before I was a mom just kind of disappeared. 

I think if I had other moms to talk to- people to tell me that kids make silly comments like "my head hurts" and then go on their merry way and it doesn't mean they have a brain tumor- that I would feel better. 

And I have joined different mommy groups in my area.  But every time we go to an event my daughter ends up .  And she has problems with asthma when she gets and she has a hard time breathing.  And it is scary! So I hate going out which makes it hard to make friends!

I love those holiday M&M's- or any M&M's really- so let's meet there for a chat!

I think you've hit the nail on the head here. It sounds like you need someone to talk to. A little bit of worry is normal. Anxiety isn't. It's your fight or flight response going haywire. As someone who has anxiety disorders in her family, I'd say get it checked out (I'm not saying you have one, just that if it is interfering with your life, you should talk to your doctor).
What about starting your own mommy group? I did and I love it. That way you can choose people who won't bring their kids to spread germs

[Candid Carrie]

I've been on anxiety/depression meds for years.  My kids know they are predisposed.  But the phone a friend offer stands