Can ANYONE tell me....

[Jo Ann]

I am 29 (30 in two months) but I already had tubal ligation due to health reasons. We have three kids (eldest is 8, second is 4 and the youngest is 2). Lately, thoughts of having another baby entered my mind. By the time I am 35, my youngest is 7. And I asked myself if I would not want to have another baby... It would be nice to have a cute, little monster to play with....But I had to erase it from my thoughts for I am already incapable of bearing a child. I just hope that I will not have baby-hunger moments in the coming years...

[Danielle]

  i know how you feel.. I have 2, my eldest will be 11 in october and my little girl 9. I feel that the older they get, the less than need me, but my precoius little girl, remided and told me that they would always need me, and that made me so happy! But, I do feel like, or should I say that I desire to have another one, I have always had a strong motherly instinct, and I feel so good about being a mother. I had my 2 very close, 17 1/2 months to be exact, and I planned it that way. Now, that they are older, have asked me several times if I was going to have another, and I would really love to. AND yes, there are sleepless nights, diapers, in ther middle of the night feedings, BUT it's such a joy to have a small infant in your arms, I guess what I am trying to say is all that stuff is sometimes tiring, but you are building a everlasting bond with that tiny little baby, and to me, its so well worth it! yes, I am taking into consideration that my son, has not pretty slept all night since he was brought home from the hospital, as were my little girl sleeps great

[Tater.Pot]

I don't want kids past age 30, but only because I want to be a young mom. I feel I can related to my children a bit more that way, just personal preference. But who is to say that once I reach 35 I won't get that 'I want another one!' feeling? I think it's only normal.

[Candid Carrie]

I don't want kids past age 30, but only because I want to be a young mom. I feel I can related to my children a bit more that way, just personal preference.

That was my original line of thinking, but I am so much wiser and efficient with my last kids than I was with the first.  Sure, I can relate with my 26 and 19 year old sons.  I have readers the age of my oldest and even younger than him but I am not friends with my kids.  My first job is to be a parent and guide and role model ... I have rules that make sense and I have more patience NOW with two youngest than I did twenty years ago when my two oldest were this age. 

I called the police to come over and lecture my oldest kid when he was seventeen and came home after drinking.  That was ten years ago and it was a tough call back then, I would still do the same thing today if it happened again.  It is hard being a parent, no matter what age they are and I guess no matter what age the kids are ... but I would rather have the gift of wisdom and experience in life. 

[Hoku31]

I'm young (26) and have 3 kids. I'm feeling like I'm done...but my husband is not. Maybe I'm just feeling this way because I'm so crazy busy right now? Kids are 5, 20 months and 5 months. My youngest was a bit of a shock, but a great addition to our family and the best baby. Slept through the night from 2 weeks old!

[Mom2ConnorRyan]

I am almost 25 and my husband and i have one child.  He is almost 2 1/2 years old and we feel we are done.  I always thought I wanted the big family but after having one I realized the hard work(but joys as well), finances,etc.  I always told my husband before our son was born that by the time he was 2 I wanted to at least start trying again.  Well 2 came and went and we decided to hold off on that decision.  We love our son and to us our family is complete.  I love being a mom,wife,etc.  I also love the one on one time we can have with our son.  I also like the conviences of one.  We have decided for the time being to hold off on anymore kids.  We also decided that when I reach 30 we will make the final decision on the matter.  So I guess for now we are done.  I could not be happier. 

[Candid Carrie]

This is one of the age old topics where there is no right answer.  It is something you just feel in your gut, like Mom2ConnorRyan just knows it.

I can honestly say that even at my ripe old age of fifty, there has never been a time that I wished there were less than the six I have and there have been times that I really thought, "yup I can handle one or two more" and as a foster parent you are way too often offered that opportunity.